“I’m sorry if I offended you.”  Really?  That’s an apology?  So, if I’m not offended by your actions then you’re not sorry?  Is your apology based on how I feel or on what you did?

How about: “Please forgive me for offending you when I lied to you about (fill in the blank).”

Let’s start 2010 out by focusing our conversations on being truthful in what we are saying.  You are either sorry your actions have hurt someone or you are not remorseful at all.  How they feel about it has nothing to do with it.